Theory of Relativity
Was Bridget really the one misbehaving? Should Marie be cleaned from all charges? Bridget still asked herself how a little girl came to the conclusion that she was anyone’s boss.
This must have been suggested somehow as there is no other explanation for a six-year-old to play the master’s role. Marie was too young to understand the relativity between cost, employer, and employee.
The Spoken and Unspoken Words
Vicki wrote that teaching children how to behave and not be rude is crucial. However, it is equally important to learn for yourself how to listen. She emphasized the listening part and carried on by adding that listening means more than hearing the words that come out of their mouth.
Listening is understanding their body language, it's listening to the spoken words but more to the unspoken words. It's also about teaching them new ways to express their frustration and disappointment.
A Child's Salvation
Vicki gave Bridget some more advice about dealing with unwanted behavior. She added that if a child finds it difficult to explain the situation they are in, it is the parent's position to help them reach salvation. Adults alone have difficulties expressing themselves so could you imagine what children go through?
As a parent, you have to slip into your investigator's uniform and dig in deep until you find what you are looking for. You dig in until you reach your child and his/her needs.
Things to Do Before Hiring a New Nanny
The incident for sure opened Bridget's eyes. After reading through the responses she got to her post, she googled "Things to do before hiring a new nanny" and realized there were crucial things she had to do before presenting her children with the new reality.
The first step she had to take made her feel really bad. How didn't she know of this before? Sometimes the most simple things in life just slip under your nose.
Rule number one is "digestion time". It's impossible to expect kids to just deal with things. They need time to understand, acknowledge and accept changes in life. Instead of preparing Marie for the new nanny, Bridget simply announced that on the following day a new nanny would be arriving.
What Bridget read is that at least one week is needed for a child before major changes occur. They need time to ask questions, time to have a debate, and most importantly they have to know why. Bridget came across some more useful advice, that any parent to any child should consider before hiring a new nanny or babysitter.