You know what they say, mother knows best. Of course, that is definitely the case if your mom happens to be Goldie Hawn. Her daughter, Kate Hudson says that Hawn was absolutely monumental in giving her the tools she needed to successfully co-parent her children with three separate fathers. Hudson revealed her own modern family on the podcast Divorce Sucks!, with Laura Wasser. She co-parents her children, Ryder Robinson, Bingham Hawn Bellamy, and Rani Rose Hudson Fujikawa with all of their fathers. She also shared the best advice that Goldie Hawn gave her.
She said that the biggest thing she learned from Hawn was not to talk badly about your co-parents in front of the children. She mentions that she constantly sees her friends talking badly about their exes in front of the kids and they do not see how badly that affects them. It makes them resentful and can affect relationships. She remembers that she never once heard a bad word about her father, and that really stuck with her. Children can and will pick up on tones and comments made by their parents. She goes on to say that children are extremely intelligent, and as they get older, they are able to make up their minds for themselves. She states that it is not our place to tell our children how to feel about their other parents. That is something they have to figure out on their own.
It may sound like a no-brainer, but it is something very important to remember. It can be very difficult and frustrating to co-parent with an ex. A lot of the time you are going to feel like you have to vent, but be careful to keep the kids out of it. It is important to have a plan for communication, whether it be a co-parenting app or meetings that happen in person. It is important to set boundaries with your co-parent as well as your expectations.
It is imperative that the parents are on the same page and that the kids feel that. Hudson also goes on to say that it is helpful to be financially independent and that it helps to not be dependent on your co-parent. However, she realizes this is not the case for everyone. There is no shame in asking whoever you co-parent with to help financially with child support, it doesn’t matter how much you make, don’t be too proud to ask for help. The main thing that Hudson wants to get across is that even if parents are divorced, the best thing they can do is to make sure that their kids’ happiness is the top priority for both of them.